How to Ejaculate Faster: 16 Things to Try During Sex or Masturbation

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Whether you’re in the mood for a quickie or simply want to pick up the pace, these tips and techniques can help you speed up your O for a mind-blowing release.

Here’s how to heat things up when you’re riding solo or with a partner.

What you can do beforehand

If you want to get off faster, you’ll need to do some work before things enter the hot and heavy stage.

These techniques and strategies can help make intercourse or masturbation more intense so that it ultimately takes less effort to come.

Practice Kegels

Although Kegels are usually associated with cisgender women and other people with a vagina, everyone can benefit from a bit of toning in the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles.

Building your PC muscles may help you come faster and improve your overall quality of climax.

A basic Kegel exercise requires you to contract and relax the muscles in your pelvic region.

In other words, you should hold and release the muscles that you squeeze when you want to stop yourself from peeing or releasing gas.

When you’ve identified those muscles, contract them for 5 to 10 seconds. Release for 5 seconds, then contract again.

Do this 8 to 10 times in a row. This completes one set. For best results, perform three to four sets per day.

Cut back on your solo play

Masturbation is a great way to get to know what you like.

Although some people believe that masturbating before partner sex can help prevent you from climaxing too quickly, others may experience the opposite.

For some people, ejaculating earlier in the day may actually slow down the hormones that control their sex drive.

This could decrease your overall libido, as well as increase the time it takes you to orgasm.

You don’t have to cut out solo play entirely. Just limit yourself on days that you plan to be intimate with a partner.

This delay between orgasms, as well as the anticipation to get off again, may help you climax faster.

Abstain from drugs or alcohol

It can be difficult to get or stay erect while under the influence of drugs or alcohol. You may also find that you’re unable to fully experience your typical range of sensation.

In other words, your body may not respond as desired to sexual stimulus.

This can make it difficult to climax as quickly as you normally would, let alone faster.

When it’s time, make sure your head is in the game

A lot of sexual satisfaction is in your head — the one above your shoulders.

In this mind-over-body matter, you can help yourself come faster by clearing your mind and focusing on the situation at hand.

Stress, anxiety, and fatigue can all prevent you from feeling engaged in the moment.

This can slow down your climax and make it more difficult to come.

If you find yourself distracted or otherwise disengaged, it may be helpful to practice intentional breathing.

This may help you release any unwanted thoughts and refocus your attention. Deep breathing can also improve your circulation, possibly leading to enhanced sensation.

Try a different position

If you do the same thing every time — in solo play or partner sex — you may find the monotony quite boring.

That can translate to a lack of sensation and delayed orgasm.

If you want to masturbate, skip standing or lying in bed in favor of something new.

For example, you could get on all fours and thrust your hips while you masturbate. You can also try leaning against a counter or sitting in a chair.

If your go-to position for intercourse is missionary, be unpredictable and offer up a few new ideas.

Reverse cowgirl or doggy style may offer a new sensation and exciting turn of events.

Try a different motion or pace

If you’re used to running at full throttle, you may wear out long before you reach the end of your journey. Slow down and enjoy the moment. The increased sensations may actually help you orgasm faster.

Likewise, if you tend to be a bit slower with your movements, vary your pace in order to keep building tension and sensation.

This works for solo play or anal, vaginal, or oral sex.

Using a different motion or pace can help keep things interesting for you and your partner.

Stimulate different areas

If you only focus on what’s below the belt, you’re missing out on an entire playground of opportunity.

The human body is covered with erogenous zones, or areas that are sensitive and provide a great deal of sensual satisfaction.

While you’re masturbating, you can engage these areas yourself. Use your own hands to massage your legs, nipples, inner thighs, and lower stomach.

While one hand goes to work on your penis, use the other to massage your testicles or the perineum, the area between your anus and scrotum.

With partner play, you can focus on your penis if you want, but try engaging new areas, such as your ears, feet, or butt.

For added interest, you can play with yourself while your partner works on these erogenous zones.

Play with your prostate

The prostate is sometimes called the “male G-spot.”

Stimulating the prostate may help you get off faster during sex or masturbation. You just have to know how to do it.

You or your partner should start by gently rubbing the outside of your anus and around the perineum.

If you’re comfortable with penetration, you can use your finger to massage the inside of your anus, too.

Make sure you add a little lube before inserting your finger. This can help prevent discomfort.

As the motion feels more comfortable, you can increase your speed until you come.

If you’d rather not use your hand or have difficulty reaching the prostate with your finger, sex toys are a great option. They allow you to choose the pace and penetration and, in some cases, provide a more exhilarating experience than your finger could.

Try something new entirely

Just as trying new positions and motions can help you come faster, trying new types of sexual activity might help you climax more quickly, too.

Think of sexual activity as a fun experiment. It doesn’t have to be — and shouldn’t be — the same time after time.

If you aren’t already, you can:

  • Send dirty texts to your partner to build sexual tension — for both of you.
  • Pick a scene and roleplay, letting each other act out kinks and fantasies you might not otherwise.
  • Make some noise. Sexy sounds help assure you and your partner that you’re both into the activity. This may increase arousal and help you come faster.
  • Bring out toys to try new positions to experience different sensation.
  • Use dirty talk to express what you’re feeling. Hearing how good something feels may help you or your partner climax faster.

When to see a doctor or other healthcare provider

It isn’t uncommon to experience a sluggish libido from time to time.

But if you frequently find it difficult to maintain an erection or are otherwise unable to ejaculate, make an appointment with a doctor.

You and your provider can work together to diagnose the underlying cause. Your provider may also be able to recommend medication or other therapies to help ease sexual dysfunction.

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